Sick of Screaming – Ready to Quit

button4-tmCan I go 365 days without yelling at my children? Doubtful. But after stumbling upon The Orange Rhino Challenge website, I’m determined to try.

The woman who started the Orange Rhino Challenge has gone more than 400 days without yelling at her children.

If she can do it I can, right?

At first I had some serious doubts. Surely this woman’s children aren’t normal. Or she isn’t normal. Are they perfect angels who never make messes? Are they timid and shy – afraid to anger their mother? Is she doped up on vallum?

But then I started reading more into her blog and I think she’s real. Very real. And I think we would really get along. She’s a stay-at-home mom raising four young boys. Sound familiar?

When I scanned her “Orange Rhino” alternatives to yelling I could see myself doing those same things. Here are some of my favorites:

– Go to the bathroom and scream into the toilet, then flush it away (um symbolic?)

– Go through yelling motions but don’t let voice out (shocks kids and yourself that you didn’t yell, releases endorphins from pride!)

– Look at TV and pretend there is a hidden camera (fear of judgment works wonders)

Anyone who’ll admit to screaming into her toilet instead of at her kids is my type of woman.

But this isn’t going to be easy. I’m a loud person.

Growing up to be a mere 5 ft. zero inches and 100-pounds I have learned that I am better heard than seen.

It’s not only that. I love my house to be clean, my boys to be calm and my plans to go uninterrupted. Couple all that with my quick temper and I’m a sitting grenade. You never know what will pull the pin.

But I’m sick of yelling at my kids. I’m sick of them ignoring me until I’m screaming in neck-vein-bulging tones. I think they don’t “hear” me anymore unless I yell.

Honestly I really don’t think my yelling impacts my boys. It’s like at the sound of my voice invisible earmuffs cup over their ears and my words fall upon deaf ears.

At this point I am pretty sure the only volume my 9-month-old thinks is out there is LOUD. He’s been mimicking my monstrous roar ever since he could utter, “da-da.” I don’t want him growing up thinking that’s the norm.

All my kids are going to have to tune in as I turn down my volume.

I’m tired of going to bed feeling guilty that I snapped – again. And I don’t want to apologize to friends and family anymore for growling at my kids.

I’m going to stop.

I don’t know how many times I’ll have to reset my counter on this challenge, but I’m not a quitter.

Per The Orange Rhino Challenge Details, I am allowed to use a potentially raised stern voice and I get an “oopsie” snap. Sounds like a piece of cake, right?

Right. I’ll put a counter at the bottom of each blog post so you all can see my progress or regress. Hopefully that will help me stick with this challenge.

Bear with me. If I can’t yell at my kids then Boogers on the Wall may features a lot of frustrated writing in the coming weeks. I’ve got to get it out somewhere.

And while I’m thinking of getting it out somewhere, are there any volunteers who’ll let me text them when I am on the verge of losing it? That’s another one of my favorite Orange Rhino yelling alternatives.

If you’re willing to be on call and will help talk me down when I’m going to burst, message me your number. But keep in mind I may use it often. I’m going to need all the help I can get.

12 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Jackie
    Apr 11, 2013 @ 08:35:53

    Good luck! I have cousins who swear their mother NEVER yelled. Ever.

    Reply

    • Natalie
      Apr 11, 2013 @ 08:50:16

      Kuddos to your aunt Jackie! That is awesome. My oldest boys would have to forget the first 4 and 6 years of their lives to be able to say I never yelled. Hopefully if I can calm myself down they’ll be able to say I hardly ever yelled 🙂

      Reply

  2. Jenny Campbell
    Apr 11, 2013 @ 12:37:30

    I need to do this too. Maybe we should be texting buddies 🙂

    Reply

  3. Cassandra
    Apr 11, 2013 @ 13:37:31

    I feel the exact same way Natalie! I look at my sweet girls asleep in their beds every night and kick myself for ever raising my voice to them. I probably need to take this challenge too! And I don’t know about you, but I need the help of my Heavenly Father through prayer….seems to give me better days:)

    Reply

    • Natalie
      Apr 11, 2013 @ 14:20:24

      You are so right Cassie. Praying helps me put things into perspective and realize that some things aren’t really worth yelling about.

      Reply

  4. April Anderson
    Apr 11, 2013 @ 13:50:01

    I have been wanting to try this ever since I read her blog. So far two days is my streak. You can text me if you want. It helps to be all in this together.

    Reply

    • Natalie
      Apr 11, 2013 @ 14:19:47

      Who knows how long my streak will be April. Way to go on two days of not yelling! I’m going to Facebook message you so we can swap numbers 🙂

      Reply

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