I hate going to the doctor. Not because I hate modern-day medicine. But I am a tight wad who hates paying an unnecessary co-pay. And I am really bad at predicting whether an illness is doctor-visit worthy or not.

My youngest son was really sick this week. He was up all night a couple of nights with a really bad fever. Nothing I did could soothe my poor, miserable baby.

After a couple of sleepless nights and I-can’t-stay-awake-for-the-life-of-me-afternoons, I broke down and called the doctor.

And what happened? Absolutely nothing.

I took him in and he was fine. No ear infection. No sore throat. No croup.

Although that is extremely great news, it frustrated the crap out of me.

I can’t tell you how many times my children have been extremely sick during the night and early morning hours, only to make a miraculous recovery right before I take them in to the pediatrician.

I half wonder if my cell phone is magical. It seems like whenever I call to make a doctor’s appointment my children immediately start feeling better.

Then I go back and forth thinking should I cancel the appointment or take them in? It’s like playing physician roulette. .

Normally my guilty conscience talks me into taking them in. That’s what happened on Tuesday. I kept thinking, “What if he really does have an ear infection? What if his ear is burning with pain? What if his eardrum ruptures all because I want to save a buck and keep him home?”

It’s too bad my 6-month-old can’t tell me how he really feels or what really is hurting.

Someone needs to invent a Should-I-Take-Them-To-The-Doctor? kit for moms. It should come with one of those magnified stick-up-the-nose-or-in-the-ear-and-shine-a-light-inside tools. That way I could scan my son’s ears before assuming his new grabbing-at-the-lobe trait is an infection.

It’d also be nice to have a tongue depressor/flashlight combo. Then I could force open his mouth and see how red it really is way back where.

I don’t know how they could do it, but I also would need an is-it-appendicitis? type tummy scanner.

I could use the kit before paying someone else to spend 5 minutes glancing at my child and diagnosing them with a common cold.

I love my kids and I want them to be healthy but I hate feeling like I just gave a doctor $20 for them to tell me to give my child more Tylenol. I am starting to form an opinion that if the doctor can’t fix it, I shouldn’t have to pay.

Especially because usually before I take my kids in, I have already given them Tylenol for two days straight to no avail.

I know that isn’t realistic and deep down I am extremely grateful for my pediatrician. I just get frustrated when one of my babies is really sick yet there is nothing “wrong” with them.

Luckily we are a healthy family who doesn’t visit the doctor very often.

9 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Jess
    Jan 31, 2013 @ 12:30:46

    I hear ya! I avoid dr. co-pays like the plague, but sometimes I get it wrong. Like when I found out my baby’s femur was broken 3 days after she broke it, just because I was avoiding taking her in if she was just cranky from growing pains. She didn’t have concussion signs, so I thought I was in the clear. But when she stopped letting us put weight on her right leg, I finally gave in and went. But waiting so long didn’t help me sound any less negligent. I would totally go for a “Should-I-Take-Them-to-the-Doctor” kit, especially if it had an x-ray. :p


    • Natalie
      Jan 31, 2013 @ 22:07:34

      I didn’t think about x-rays Jess. You are not the first mom I know to have a baby with a broken leg and not know it. We all get it wrong sometimes.


  2. Julie
    Jan 31, 2013 @ 13:21:57

    I had an otoscope when I worked for the deaf school. That’s one of those thingies-with-a-light-that-you-stick-in-the-ear. It was so nice to have and I was sad when I had to give it back. It saved me quite a few trips to the pediatrician.


    • Natalie
      Jan 31, 2013 @ 22:06:37

      Maybe I should look into getting my hands on one of those otoscopes. Then again, I wouldn’t know the first thing about what to look for. I need to do some research…


  3. jac
    Jan 31, 2013 @ 17:51:01

    Nothing is ever wrong! They just confirm your opinion, “yup, he’s sick.” But then when you bring your kid to their well-child checkup an hour after you picked them up from preschool the pediatrician points out that your kid has a serious case of strep throat. I’m THAT mom.

    On the other hand, I’ve had instacare doctors tell me Kyle was just fine and just had a cold when he actually had RSV and again when he had Swine Flu. Good times. Love paying that second co-pay when you come back because they’re worse.


    • Natalie
      Jan 31, 2013 @ 22:06:06

      Amen Jackie! Of course my child is sick. Do you think I’d come in here looking like a zombie mom who hasn’t slept for days if my child was healthy? LOL.


  4. Jolene
    Jan 31, 2013 @ 21:45:29

    Of course they all ways get better just before you walk in the door. I listened to my mom more than the doctor and they were back to normal in a few days. Mustard plaster for colds lemon juice and honey for coughs and vicks on the chest. vinegar on a rag around there necks. The new on i hear now is vicks on their feet then socks on and the colds seem to go away. Tried it and it did work.


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